Demystifying Insecurity

When we realize that our insecurities are born from within, from our own thinking rather than from the world outside, it’s akin to seeing a magic trick unveiled. The rabbit was always in the hat.

This notion of insecurity is tightly interwoven with our “small self”, the identity that’s bounded by our fears, limited perceptions, and past experiences. But the “true self”, our authentic being, sits serenely above these transient feelings. Rooted firmly in its divine essence, it doesn’t sway with the winds of external validation or circumstances.

Our experience of insecurity is but a passing cloud, not the sky itself. It’s a misperception that surfaces when we confuse our limiting thoughts as complete and absolute reality. Identifying with this “small self” and believing in these restrictive stories in our head fuels insecurity. But once the illusion is seen for what it is, we find that our true self was secure all along.

If something stands between you and your success, move it. Never be denied.

John Appleseed

Consider Sam, who was always self-conscious about his public speaking skills. He believed his discomfort stemmed from the critical eyes of his audience, their perceived judgments anchoring his insecurity. But once he saw that his feelings of insecurity were a reflection of his own thoughts, it transformed his experience without doing anything. The audience hadn’t changed, but Sam’s understanding of speaking had shifted. He realized that his insecurity was his own creation, arising from his transient thoughts and not his circumstances.